“We are pumpkins, big and round,
Big and round, big and round.
We are pumpkins, big and round,
Seated on the ground.
We are string beans green and fine…..growing on a vine.
We are onions round and white….we make soup taste right.
We are carrots, orange and long…help us sing the song.”
How do you think, what’s this? No, it’s not neither a preparation for a concert, nor a school musical, it’s just a family evening.
“Mum, let’s sing again! We are pumpkins, big and round,
Big and round, big and round…”
Now let’s see what was really happening in that family. Mother and her child were cooking, so, nothing special, just some amazing moments spent with the family, enjoying cooking, communicating and building a strong relationship between parents and children.
I guess nothing of these would happen if they decided to eat almost every time at food stands or restaurants. Yes, these colorful and convivial restaurants, with a strong marketing theory behind them and a lot of glitter spread over, with tasty and unhealthy meals, all this stuff seems so open and friendly to all customers, but our mission is to be not tricked by appearances. In fact, what can be better than teaching yours daughter how to cut a cucumber, while preparing the dinner?
On the first place is the atmosphere, than magic atmosphere, when the smell of a toasted chicken spreads all over the kitchen and mum is calling you for the dinner, or when your father decides to prepare the breakfast for the entire family in a Sunday morning, or when the children bake their first cake for their parents. Where is the magic? The magic is in every piece of this food, because you know somebody did it for you, because he or she loves you, not because you pay him 20 dollars for that.
Second, will you put some unhealthy ingredients in the lunch you prepare for your family? I don’t think so. More than that, I’m sure you will try to make the food as healthier as possible, because, after all, it’s for somebody you love. Ok, except if you are the stepmother from Snow White and the Seven Dwarf.
As a third argument, I’ll state that preparing and eating food at home makes the relationships in the family better. Family discussions, jokes, maybe watching TV after the dinner or playing rock, scissors, sticker to see who will wash the dishes, all these maybe unimportant activities for humanity, but so crucial in a family life, all of them will make your family be more stronger.
So, as a conclusion, I want to ask you to take your family members right now and go cook the dinner, or the lunch, or the breakfast, or whatever you want, just be with your family, make them happy, and don’t forget to google some tasty recipes. Good appetite!
“Mum, pass me the sugar please”, said little Jeremy and made a wide, wide smile, with his all four small teeth. His mother, a blonde woman, dressed in a little yellow floral dress, came near him and, smiling, putted the glass bottle on the table and went to the cooker to continue preparing the pancakes. In was a Saturday morning and the sun was kindly caressing the entire room with his amazing sunshine, so that a romantic-convivial atmosphere dominated that kitchen. More than that, the smell of the pancakes, or, better saying, the future pancakes, spread all over the room, hugging gently Jeremy’s nose and promising him a tasty breakfast.
Jeremy, taking advantage that his mother was busy with cooking, started to pun some sugar in his tea, or maybe, a little more than “some”. “One, two, three…” was counting he in his mind.
“Jeremy, one day you’ll become all made from sugar, if you continue like this”, scolded him his mum.
“Hey, where did you know from?” asked the kid obviously astonished.
Suddenly, Ervin entered the kitchen.
“Good morning to my lovely family”, mumbled he with a sleepy voice.
“Daddy! Mummy is cooking pancakes, our favorites pancakes!”. Jeremy jumped in his father’s arms and kiss him on his cheek.
“Darling, what we are doing today?” asked he, tickling Jeremy and making him giggling on the floor.
“I don’t know, we may go with Jeremy somewhere…”
“Darling, what we are doing today?”
“Ervin, I was just telling you, why don’t you listen me?” said Jessica a little annoyed, but still preparing the breakfast.
“Darling, what we are doing today?”
“Mum, I’m afraid dad broke down again…”.
Obviously startled, Jessica turned off the stove and approached her husband. That well-known for her 24-hours-a-day smiling face was looking at her, but she knew he understands nothing.
“Darling, what we are doing today?”
His ruffled hair, his squared shirt, even his smell and his little unshaved beard, his blue with green eyes, everything seemed so usual. Except the fact that he was broken. For the third time in this week, he broke down.
“Darling, what we are doing today?”
She felt powerless. She wanted to cry. But she couldn’t, Jeremy was sitting next to her, staring when at his dad, when at his mum. She obviously wanted to cry.
“Mum, maybe we could buy another father? I don’t like the fact that he is breaking down so frequently.”, asked her son without any emotions.
She approached her child, kissed him on his forehead and hugged him. Then, pressed the red button behind his neck. Jeremy went numb. Jessica began to cry.
“Hurry, hurry”, said the snail and had slipped from one side of the bench to another one. The explanation? The snail had an important appointment. Why? Ok, but it’s the XXI century, everybody is in a hurry, everybody is either a businessman or a business-lady, and our snail wants to be at the same level as the rest of the world. You might think that my next statement will sound like this: we should live life at a slower pace. No way, my dears! We should run, hurry, do this, do that, die of exhaustion and smile!
First, how many lives you’ve got? Don’t forget that you are not a cat, and you can’t spend 6 from 7 lives watching TV or playing computer games, and only 1 life being happy. You could state that watching TV is the highest level of happiness, but you will be totally wrong. Happiness is about running, falling and feeling the pain. Happiness is about having things done, going to different places and feeling the life.
Second, hurrying means that you don’t manage to do some things, which means that you have a lot of things to do, which means you a multilateral developed person, which means you are smart, which means you are happy. So, if you hurry, you a happy, right?
And the third argument sounds like this: if you live your life at a slower pace, you could be worried that it passes near you. Why? Because it really could pass near you! Living slower means doing less, maybe more profound, but less. And here it’s not fashion, here less is not better, in life less is less, without many discussions.
So, what could I add now? Put on your boots and run! While running you may fall down, or take off. But you will know that your life didn’t pass near you, and you will be happy person, definitely a happy person.
Do you know that during his life, Van Gogh sold only one of his paintings? Or that Jack London’s first story received six hundred rejection slips before finally being accepted? Did you know that when the Beatles were just starting out, a recording company told them that they don’t like their sound, and guitar music is on the way out? More than that, Steve Spielberg were rejected for three times from the University of Theater, Film and Television from California, while Oprah Winfrey had been fired from her job as a television reporter because she was „unfit for TV.” So, what do you think, what’s the main similarity between these so different people? Maybe, their life quotation, to never give up?
Now, the main questions is: why should I be stubborn, with so-called “unreal” dreams and have a bit of craziness? And the answer is already coming: because I want to succeed.
First, never be sorry for yourself. Let the others love you, worry about you, because your duty is to be ruthless toward you. Yes, it can sound very inappropriate, but let’s think logically. What would happen if you always mourn yourself? You will always look for someone’s shoulder to cry on, while the others will look for a place to hide, when you will appear on the horizon. More than that, if you always give up, you can eventually end starving to death, or living in a box from someone’s TV set, someone who didn’t give up when you did it.
Second, forget the adage that what is yours will wait for you. It’s a bad quotation, a very, very bad quotation. Sincerely speaking, all the stuff about destiny, wizards and mermaids is from my point of view, tales for children. It’s not fate who changes your life, there are your decisions, it’s not a wizard, it’s a man who tricks you, and it’s not a mermaid tail, it’s an illusion, or a processed photo, or tailor’s masterpiece. There are not the others which were more advantaged, it’s you who gave up.
And the last point: a someone gives up because another someone said him that he’s bad at doing something, right? Isn’t it a total nonsense? Who is the second someone? Nobody! And why should nobody tangle you from becoming somebody?
Nothing is more powerful than a man’s will, neither the walls, nor someone’s opinion. You just have to know how to handle your immense power of will, when to wear a helmet and when to rest a little. As a final point, I would ask you to put on your helmet, and keep hitting the wall! Never forget that your dreams worth your effort and need some bruises!
Some people spend their entire lives in one place. Others move a number
of times throughout their lives, looking for a better job, house, community,
or even climate. Which do you prefer: staying in one place or moving in
search of another place? Use reasons and specific examples to support
Plant – any of various organisms of the kingdom Plantae characteristically producing embryos, containing chloroplasts, having cellulose cell walls, and lacking the power of locomotion. Yes! Lacking the power of locomotion! Does this world collocation remind you about something? Something like… people who spend their entire lives in one place?! Because I do, I do see the marvelous similarities between plants and this kind of people-with-roots. And it doesn’t matter are you a beautiful rose or an amazing Gingko Biloba tree, because nothing compares to birds: yes, these fully free and without borders creature, with charming colorful wings, small claws and black blinking with life eyes. Neither your enchanting perfume with or without exotic flavors, nor your flowers, with millions of petals of let’s say turquoise color, nothing, my dear plant, nothing compares to what a bird can see in its’ life, beginning with the landscape of the sea in the morning, and ending with some Himalayan mountains, with its’ down hills and up hills of an unprecedented greenery. So, would you still prefer to be a plant, my dear earthling?
First, never forget that our entire life is a journey, and we must keep travelling no matter what happens to us, and no, the walk from ones’ cage side to another is not called “travelling”. That’s why we should escape. In fact, the purpose of our life is to look for our happiness, to pack our rucksack, to put on our boots, to say good bye to our mums and go, move on, discover ourselves. You may say that lying in bed all day long is safer, you get no scars, bruises, no stings or bites. But our life is not about lying in bed, is not about surviving, it’s all about living, in the fullest meaning of this word. Life is like a mountain: nobody forbids you to build a small hut at the lap of the mountain, but just imagine what can you encounter while striking to touch the top of it!
Second, what are you living for? For being happy, don’t you? So, why should someone stay in a bad place? Only for having the possibility to complain “I’m unhappy, I don’t like my job, my wife is ugly, my dog smells bad”? Man, you have one brain and two feet, use them! Never be lazy to make a change in your life, it’s never too late, it’s never senseless. Try to live your life in such a way that you will not regret it before dying.
And third… there were once an adage, that later became my life-motto: it’s better to regret what you’ve done, than to regret what you didn’t do. So, take some more kilograms of courage and move! Why should you be afraid of changing? Changing is great, changing is the key straight to the happiness!
So, forget about mummy’s cakes and the cozy sofa. Forget about your bad smelling dog and try to climb the mountain. Nobody said it will be easy, but I promise it will worth it, because, in fact, what can be better than a successful life? A life where you are not afraid to move, to change, to make experiments and win? Cut you roots right now and fly.
“My mum said I have to socialize, so, I made an account on Facebook.” It may sound like a pretty inoffensive joke, but it reflects 100% todays’ reality. Or, another example: “ Why I have to go out? There are people outside.” The conclusion? In the XXI century, we, human beings, have become so selfish, proud, spoiled, vainglorious, every time in a hurry after trifles, that even we don’t want to communicate face-to-face with us. Why? Because after a monitor it is easier to have a mask, to build a fictive image, to paint over all our defects beautiful butterflies and spread some glitter over our poor and small souls.
So, still why face-to-face communication is the best one? Only because we see the partners’ real face and get so scared that we decide never to speak to people again? Like in a well-known quotation: the better I get to know people, the more I want to be a friend of animals.
First, face-to-face communication involves some skills, such as good manners and intelligence. When you chat, you can take your time to think what to response, when you are in a park or restaurant with somebody, you cannot google some slick adages or ask your friend how to act. Imagine, it involves the activity of your brain! And it’s hard, it’s very hard…More than that, you should know a little of body language, you should look well, not in that sweatshirt that you have for over 5 years and you never get out of it, you should know how to smile, when to smile. It seems to be impossible, right?
The second reason why this “impossible” face-to-face communication is better than the others is because you show that you real care about that person. Image it’s your birthday and you got 5 messages with congratulations, but still fell alone and world-forgotten. Why? Because nobody came to give you a hug, a real, not virtual through skype hug, nobody kissed you on your cheek (ok, except those two messages that contained a kissing smile).
And the last reason, and I guess, the most important one: people, think that you have the amazing possibility to talk face-to-face to somebody you like. To see his or her smile, to discuss about things you see in the surroundings, not only about some images found in the internet, to walk on the streets holding him or her, feeling the warn of somebody’s arm, to straighten a lock of somebody’s hair, or to feel the fragrance of his or her perfume.
Think that there people that don’t have this possibility, think that they would do anything for some minutes of being together, without tones of cables and monitors, and satellites between them. Think about yourself. Why should you private yourself from the best a human being can have in his live? The possibility to be near somebody.